Just like any other goal that you are striving toward you have to be able to define it.
You have to know what you are looking for, in a mate, partner, sex buddy, or whatever kind of relationship you are striving to attain.
With its explicitly imagery it has a “porno site” feel about it – not ideal for attracting quality female members. Illicit Encounters is big on helping members maintain their privacy, so most members don’t show photos to everyone who’s browsing, but rather only allow members with whom they’ve had online contact to see their photos (by setting passwords).
Unfortunately I found a lot of profiles to be empty, and some even have “test data” in them. Just trying to get a list of matches involves several clicks and selections.
So, because there’s a demand for it, married dating services do exist.
Though the sites may not encourage members to cheat on their partners, they do assist those who wish to do so, and have become very successful in the process.
Upgrading will significantly increase your chances, because unlike the vast majority of men on there who’re trying to “get laid for free”, you have the option to use “open the door” to chat with hot females (who men on free accounts can’t reach). You can place your content (either photos, or videos) into private folders and then, on those you can set your desired access. There just isn’t the same level of privacy options as are available on the two sites above.
In my experience most attractive women will not upgrade – they will just wait for VIP men to contact them. Anyone in your friends list can see your private photos. I found Gleeden to be a bit less active than the other sites, the group areas were often empty and I only got replies to a couple of the emails I sent out.
For many people, this is much better than hiding the fact that you’re also in another serious relationship.
Taking these people of regular dating sites means people looking for 1-1 relationships are less likely to come across people who’re already attached.
Sometimes they are seeking only friendship, but more often than not, they are indulging in extra-marital affairs and infidelity.
In some cases, they may be in open, or polyamorous relationships where dating outside the relationship isn’t considered outside the boundaries.
However what I would say is that most of “the profiles” on there do seem genuine and to have real, ordinary people behind them (you don’t get the feeling of it being packed with model-like airbrushed photos).